Ep 44 - Ross & Rachel
In this episode I talk about how I adopted my cats, how my husband always said having pets is good for kids because it teaches them about death and how I've wondered if there is more peace and closure in knowing that someone you love is going to die.
I walked along peering into the cages, not looking for anything in particular. I wasn’t even really sold on the idea of bringing one home. They were all adorable. And tempting. And then there were two. A black male and a grey tabby female. Brother and sister. They were five weeks old and weighed one pound each. They each fit in the palm of my hand. They just sat there, staring at me. And that was it. I was in love.
My husband always said that having pets is good for kids because it teaches them about death. But I don’t think it taught my son a single thing. If anything, he was probably more confused. One minute we were taking Rachel to the vet and she was alive. And the next we were leaving without her and I was saying she was dead. I just didn’t know how to explain to him that I paid the nice people to kill his cat.
I’ve wondered if there is more peace and closure in the knowing. In seeing it coming and saying goodbye or if it is just as devastating to have the rug pulled out from under you with the shock and surprise. Either way it’s messy and complicated and heartbreaking.